Triangle Whole, Well & Good


      Ann G. Kramer, EdS LPC             

Counseling, Coaching, Creating Wholeness

1127 Kildaire Farm Rd., Cary, NC 27511          (part of Long Life Wellness Center)                                                                                                                 919 518 3717

Wholeness is an ongoing, growing journey that supports you for a lifetime. The Life Puzzle is framework for creating a whole life and provides the foundation for working with Ann.  For an appointment, please call 919.518.3717

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Parent Pathways: a “Life Puzzle” for the journey of raising teens.

The following article was written by Christa Gala, a columnist for the News and Observer.  It talks about the Parent/Teen workshop coming up in April.  (Scroll down to the next posting to get more details)

Ann Kramer, a licensed professional counselor in Cary, started her college career studying social work, but soon changed her mind.

“Halfway through I was raising my hand saying, ‘Everything you teach me is how to fix people after they break,’” she says. “‘Why don’t you teach me how to help people not get broken in the first place?’”

Her professors all had the same answer: We don’t do that.

But that’s what Kramer had set her heart on doing, so she switched majors to study psychology and, later, received dual master’s degrees in counseling and early childhood development.

For the past 20 years, she’s been working with teens and their parents to help them learn the framework of what she calls “The Life Puzzle.”

“The Life Puzzle model I created over time working with clients,” she says. “What I found is we don’t really have a framework for what it means to put together a really whole life.” Continue reading

Growing up ____________ (stinks, sucks, is hard, confusing……pick one!)

Join this parent/teen workshop to find the key to successfully solving this universal challenge!

Are you and your teen struggling to get through these years?

Teens, do you feel overwhelmed by the massive choices you’re facing?

Parents, do you feel frustrated trying to help your teen but not sure what to do?

Growing up is tough for everyone. Most people think you’re done at 21 but it’s actually a life-long journey. In these parallel workshops, parents and teens will learn how to build a framework that will support you through that journey.  In the process, chaos turns into order and you’ll discover a way to take life’s challenges and use them to build your life.

At the end of this workshop, parents and teens will:

Create a positive framework for turning chaos into order that will support you through life.

Find out the essential building blocks for developing healthy SELF-esteem.

Discover the number one thing stopping you from making good decisions.

Identify the most powerful actions that will move you towards developing a positive parenting relationship.

Complete the workshop with the excitement of knowing EXACTLY what the next steps are to growing up healthy and happy.
Saturday, April 25th, 10-2 pm

Triangle Whole, Well and Good: 1127 Kildaire Farm Rd. Cary, NC.

Facilitators: Ann Kramer, EdS LPC &  Lesli Doares MS LMFT

Cost: $50 for each parent/teen pair (limit 10 parents/10 teens)

Workshop includes two PDF books: Life Puzzle…putting the pieces together for parents and Not done @21 (building wholeness in a 100 year life) for teens.    We will provide a light snack, water and coffee.


To register: call Ann Kramer, EdS LPC 919 518 3717




Lean Whole?

Sheryl Sandberg’s book, Lean In, Women, Work and the Will to Lead created quite a stir as it looked at the ways women are held back and even hold our selves back in the corporate world. As a result, women achieve much lower success in the top ranks of corporations and this is a loss for everyone.

Her three points of encouragement—1)Sit at the table—have the courage to see yourself in the top ranks, 2)Make your partner a real partner—create gender equality in home care so that both partners have equal capacity for success in the work place and 3) Don’t leave before you leave—meaning stay fully engaged in growing your career until the very last moment, even though you may leave the workforce eventually to do other things are all sage advice.IMG_0038

Yet as I watched her Ted Talk of 2010,  my thoughts kept coming back to wholeness. Continue reading

This year….try loving it.

I was at the gym this morning and a man walked up to me and said “I think you have the happiest face of anyone in this gym.  You are always smiling when you work out!”

I laughed and said,  “Thanks and that yes, I’m probably one of the few people in the gym who really likes working out. I decided long ago that if I’m going to be here on a regular basis, I may as well enjoy it and I do!”  He nodded and said he did too and then walked off.

Then I started reflecting and realized–here it is the middle of December which means in just a little over three weeks the gym will be flooded with people who, once again, are going to try to get in shape, lose weight and live up to their New Year’s resolution.clip-art-yoga-518279 Continue reading

The only security in Life is Insecurity–learn to love it!

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“The Only Security in Life is Insecurity–learn to love it!”  This may seem like an oxymoron, but in truth, when you live your life accepting that everything is always changing it is actually an easier way to live!  Then, when life does throw you a curve ball–it is not all that unexpected and you can respond with acceptance.

Unfortunately most of us spend our lives trying to figure out the exact opposite–how to get everything secure and safe all the time.  We expend an enormous amount of time and energy trying to get control over the world and keep it from upsetting our secure life.  But try as you might, the world just keeps on coming! What I’m suggesting is that you let go of trying to get everything perfect and instead, live life as it comes.  When you do, you’ll find you have more time to live life in the present moment and the capacity to handle what comes your way.  That’s what Life Puzzle making is all about!


Discipline or Punish…what helps a child learn best?

It has been a tough month for the NFL.  There’s the Ray Rice domestic violence case and now charges against Adrian Peterson for child abuse related to his hitting his four year old child with a switch to the point of leaving significant marks on the child.

All sorts of people have weighed in on this case–some in horror to what was done to this child and others with a shrug as they say “Well, I got hit when I was a kid and I turned out okay”.  This is forcing us to confront a huge reality–that we have used punishment as a regular method of child development for a very long time. Some insist it is a good and necessary tool in a parent’s tool kit and others insist it be removed forever.

But here’s the key issue–if we are going to help our children build healthy, whole and dynamic lives, are we going to use discipline or punishment as the way to do this.  To discipline means “to teach”. To punish means “to hurt”.  Framed in this way–it really asks parents to decide–are you teaching or hurting as your method of helping your child learn how to build their life?  It’s a choice that we all have to make. Continue reading

Reject or Embrace?

At a domestic violence conference, the crowd sat engrossed in the keynote speaker’s 30 year story of abuse. Not until she lay in the hospital with practically every bone in her body broken was she finally able to leave him. As she told her story, the disgust towards her ex-husband was palpable and when she called him the ‘scum of the earth’, heads nodded.

But then she ended her talk with saying that her greatest grief was that her daughter had grown up to also be a victim of a domestic violent relationship and her son had become a perpetrator. And it flashed in my head “Is he the scum of the earth too?”

As we moved into the q & a portion, I wrestled with that thought until I stood and simply had to ask her; “You mentioned your son had become a perpetrator and as you described your ex-husband as the scum of the earth, I wonder—do you think your son is the scum of the earth too? Or was he just unlucky enough to have been raised in a family dynamic where he was taught to manage his emotions through violence?” Continue reading

Healthy eating rewrites your life story

In a world where we often feel powerless, the efforts we make to eat healthy, good and nutritious food is a statement of power.  It isn’t easy to do this because  grocery shelves are filled with lots of processed foods, fast food restaurants are on every corner and our fast paced lifestyles can quickly undermine our best intentions of eating a healthy diet.

The second you decide to own this area of your Life Puzzle, you change your life story forever. 


What could be healthier than fresh veggies!


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Having it all, but what is All?

I thought I had it all….

One of the things I noticed when I first began my practice was how many successful people were not really happy. 

j0356624Often they would say to me, “I have the house, the cars, the kids, and everything that goes with it, aren’t I supposed to be happy now?” Some had even gotten bigger houses and newer cars and a few more kids, but still they felt something was missing. Continue reading

All I want is for my children to be happy …..

Ran across this TedTalk by Jennifer Senior: For Parents, happiness is a very high bar.  Jennifer is a writer for New York Magazine and author of “All Joy and No Fun” which essentially discusses modern parenthood.  Her thesis is that parenting has now become burdensome due to the pressures of culture to ensure that our children have these incredibly happy childhoods.

I think she hit the nail on the head when she says that parents are genuinely Continue reading